Mindfulness became a very popular word in the recent years. Mindful eating, mindful relationships, mindful education, …
Every person is looking for happiness which makes all of us are to the certain degree philosophers trying to figure out what is the key to happiness for them.
Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called ‘comfort’ of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content, when deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again.”
Here I choose my favorite quotes related to happiness. The way I understand and apply them makes me a very happy personn.
Happiness is true when shared
I don’t mean sharing excitement. I actually quite often choose to collect experiences absolutely alone to see what kind of thoughts will be developed in my head without adding external influences.
I mean that the true happiness – a constant peace of mind you enter and finish your day with – should be nourished by the pleasant sense of security that there are people who cares about you somewhere on this planet. Even if they are not with you physically at the moment, you know that they love you and they will be truly interested by what you are doing and support you when you need them.
Take care of your relationships with people because that might be after health and a strong mind the most important thing you have in your life. Call your parents often and don’t be afraid to say “I love you“ to people who are important to you. If it’s a true feeling it doesn’t lose its value the more your say that. Give people your support when they need you. Smile to strangers, because you never know how heavy is the burden they carry inside.
Limit your desires
No desires no suffer, like the fundamental buddist saying teaches us. Of course, to evolve we need to have some overview of what we want in life and some goals. You can want certain things in your life, want to accomplish something, get affection from someone but at the moment you desire it too much and attach your happiness to any external thing, you are losing control of your mind.
“Now desire, no suffer” is one of the most important component of buddhism philosophy which I remind to myself like mantra whenever some bad thoughts start raising in my head. When you understand that you actually don’t really need anything in your life, the true lightness of your existence will biring you peace.
Appreciate everything you have in life in the present moment without getting to attach to anything because nothing is eternal.
Keep your glass half full
I choose where I look to and try to focus on good accepts of my life situation.
Of course I could find a huge list of what bother me in life and how I would like them to look difrently. I wouldn’t necessary world like to spend 40 hours per week working in front of the computer. I would love Berlin to be more sunny and by the beach for example.
And then of course I could start compare myself to the others, see that some of them gain more money, some of them look better, have happy relationships. And then as most unhappy people do I could grow in my head a thought that my life isn’t great, that I should change this or that to be happy.
But I don’t do none of that. I would rather than doing all of this I see it that I actually like my work. And maybe Berlin is not the most beautiful place on earth but I love it for it peace full vibes so uncommon for a big city.
And I don’t compare myself with the others, because I simply don’t see any reason why should I.
Go with the flow
“Curiosity is one of the great secrets of happiness.”
Bryant H. McGill
When you don’t know what to do, and you have some last minuts fears, just set “yes” as a default answer. We more often regrets thinks we haven’t done that the things we did. If somebody propose you something you want to agree but you are afraid to try something new, just do it.
After all even from unpleasant experience you can learn a lot, and the feeling of missed opportunity is awful. Nothing is stable in universe and our small lives are changing all the time. Rarely the same chance or experience is to be give twice, so don’t be afraid to grab it when it comes to you.
Feed your mind with beautiful experiences
Buddhist believe that every single experience feed our mind at some point.
There are unpleasant experiences you cannot avoid, but do your best to limit them. If you feel that a person doesn’t make you happy, the person probably doesn’t. Maybe it’s an emotional ivi.
If you are not entirely what society want you to be, really don’t care. Don’t be harsh on yourself.
Remember that you don’t have to do anything
Understanding the lightness of your existence can make you feel truly relieved. All you do is your choice, and actually you really don’t have to nothing. Don’t be afraid to be free and create your life the way you want.
Don’t let your mind, society and whoever is important for you to put constraints on your freedom.
Don’t let others to define who you are, put you into any frames. and suggest how to spend your life. You should do this or that? You should be straight man having a proper 40/7 work, a wife a car. Who says that?
Actually who says that There are just people who repeat things they heard from the others before without even thinking about it. Create your own rules and apply it to live. If people cannot accept you in the way you are, maybe they are not right to you.. There three billion people in this planet, don’t let a few of them to tell you how to live your life.
Sometimes we are the ones who put pressure on ourselves. Even though nobody said to us explicit how to behave, many people just simply have this feeling that they have to accomplish something, or fulfil certain social rules.
“Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.”
“Be nice to yourself. It’s hard to be happy when someone is mean to you all the time.”
Appreciate small things
Joy is the simplest form of gratitude.
To appreciate small things we first have to notice them.
Noticing small pleasures in life makes us happy. Do you remember this moment in the movies when the main character is about to day or something important is happening. Suddenly his life pass like in a slow motion, he is observing the world, noticing and appreciating things he haven’t seen before. Suddenly small things make them happy. That’s how I try to live.
Only when you are mindful you can appreciate small things, and that’s what your life is build from. If you cannot be happy from the fact that you drink delicious coffee in your safe environment
You are what you eat (Your body is your best ally)
Happy mind lives in a healthy body. The way you nourish yourself, but also the ammount of stress you are usually voluntary serving to yourself, quality of sleep has a huge impact on how happy you are.
Your body will sooner or later send you a bill after how you were treating it. Feeling depressed is often a first symptom of unhealthy diet, lack of sports or cutting on sleep.
Money will NOT make you happy
There is no equal chances in the world, and definitely money makes things easier for some people. They give a pleasant sense of security and buy you a lot of fun. They give a comfort and if you use them well you you can fly higher in your life.Maybe the most important, having money gives you freedom to not think about how to get them.
Taking it all into consideration I don’t believe that having the biggest amount of richness in the world will make you a happy person if you don’t find the happiness from the inside. Don’t confuse happiness with excitement. Achieving happiness is a long process of developing your mind and it’s irrelated of external factors
I’ve seen very well of people being totally unhappy, because they were under enormous social pressure and were totally stressed. At the same time I’ve seen people smiling from happiness who “just” had a big healthy family, sunny weather and a wooden cottage by the sea to live in.
After all, the best things in life are for free and in English starts from the letter “s”
Less is more
A typical habitat of a human from XXI century. Sound of loud music or worse, TV interrupted from time to time by aggressive commercials. A few digital devices ringing persistently for your immediate attention with calls, notifications from 6 different social media channels you follow and of course text messages from different messengers from the people you not necessarily even met in the real life yet. All in a messy room stuffed with things of which more than half is totally unnecessary for a daily life.
Imagine how cluttered human mind in such a conditions is…
Don’t clutter your life and enable your mind speak to you at least from time to time. If any of this might be the case start from loosing up the relationship with your phone or giving away unnecessary objects you don’t use and just see what happens.
Happiness is the way you travel, not a destination
Many people live lives like it was kind of a game or a competition and if they reach all the levels there will be a magic gate called “Happiness” . They wait for something all the time, to finally be happy at some point in the future. They do works they don’t like thinking that promotion will bring them happiness. Don’t wait to full fill your dreams “later”, because it simply may not come. Or you will be to old and tired to find enough vital energy to follow the neglected passions and devoted dreams. Or they wait for someone to bring them happiness, while in fact the only true happiness is only from the inside.
The only sure final destination of your life journey is death. And as much as most of us wants to believe that there is something after, none knows it for sure. So ask yourself when is the best time to open your eyes and focus on life than exactly right here and right NOW? You don’t owe anything more than this moment, so better appreciate it well.
I don’t believe that anyone who is not able to be happy in the present moment will be able to feel happy in any moment in the future without fundamentally changing the way of thinking.
Only taking life how they way it is and appreciating every single minute of it can make you happy.